I - she - they - pronouns and ego

Consider these pronouns :

He, she, they

Do 'he' thoughts, thoughts about someone, bring up 'not I' - "he's not I" - and thus 'I' thoughts? Thoughts of comparison: positive, negative, or even neutral/objective comparison?

Using '=>' to mean 'implies':

he => not I => I?

How about:

she => not I => I?

Or:

they => not I => I?

E.g., he is nice, he's not me, I am not nice. Or vice versa.

She's not nice, she's not me, I am also not nice.

They're blue-skinned, they're not me, I am brown-skinned.

(I am forced to use 'me' to satisfy English grammatical rules. But I hope the idea that 'he' thoughts can generate 'I' thoughts is clear.)

Other variations [1] on such thought sequences:

him => not me => me

her => not me => me

they => not me => me

his => not mine =>mine

hers => not mine =>mine

their => not mine => mine

All right, so what? Isn't this normal?

That's precisely the point. It doesn't have to be normal. Such thought sequences, especially by deliberate indulgence, bolster the sense of ego.

Simple awareness is sufficient to change.

Why change?

To reduce the energy wasted, on useless and even demotivating comparisons, especially on negative thoughts, and by the resulting physical stress. Using the brain efficiently also reduces one's ego!

Going inward for spiritual evolution is all very well. But if all we do by going inward is outward thinking, about others outside, that doesn't help us in removing our self-created layers of impurities and complexities. Again, it reduces the brain's efficiency.

NOTES

[1] based on "ego" implying "I, me, and my/mine" thoughts or emotions