Everything in life can be simply, even trivially, described as
learning to use attention and
actually using attention.
A baby probably has the greatest effective attention of all human beings. It has no psychological hang-ups, no filters, no images of itself or others. Using all its senses, or paying attention to all of them [1], it builds up tons of data about its body and the world outside. It also learns to use that data in its relationships with other things or other humans. Intonations, dialects, vocabulary and emotional reactions of others are learned effortlessly without any biases.
Essentially, a baby's attention rests easily and moves equally easily as needed for its development. Until it is conditioned or trained or stopped from using its attention easily. Example? A baby playing with its poop :-D It learns very soon, perhaps immediately, not to do so from the resulting negative excitement and exhortation!
From a toddler on, a self-image appears, generally from the assessments of others as well as self-created. And images of others. All from attention outward and the resulting inward feelings or emotions. There is little systematic exposure to different situations or analysis.
It is not difficult to envisage simple training in inward attention.
First understand how attention is directed through simple observation directed at three "locations":
i) at the outside world,
ii) at the interface (sense and motor organs),
iii) at the inside.
Paying attention to the first two locations is needed to understand when something that seems to be inward or inside is actually arising from --representing-- something physically outside. Or the body itself. Thus, thoughts, emotions, memories, etc. about others physically separated from you all imply outward attention.
Training attention on the outside world
For training attention on the outside world, use this simple technique - look, listen, smell, taste, and touch without prejudice or bias or analysis, exactly like a baby.
Since vision is the most important sense for humans, simply look around, letting the eyes linger and drift easily, without analysis. This is actually mental training of attention, expressed physically. Without thinking, if possible. Then, close the eyes, and listen. Again let attention drift from sound to sound, to whatever comes up. Rest without bias, move without bias. Smells often cause visceral or instinctive and usually negative reactions. It is not easy to train a detached attention to smells. Similarly for taste and touch.
Training attention on the body
Then pay attention to the body, or to the sensing and acting instruments themselves. A full-body relaxation technique does the trick here.
Training attention on the inside world
Lastly, pay attention inward. To thoughts, feelings, ideas, memories. Again, let things bubble up into conscious awareness instead of moving one's awareness around. This undirected/unwilled movement is important. That builds up the ability to look at --and accept-- oneself with ever-reducing subjective bias. This clarity is needed to see things as they are and not as they should be -- as one wants them to be.
(TRAINING ATTENTION AFTER HEARTFULNESS PRACTICES
In Heartfulness, we distinguish between one's heart and mind. The latter, no matter how blazingly quick, is still single-threaded in its thinking action. The heart, OTOH, is massively parallel and always present, but quite shallow. It feels and reacts or responds, but does not think. Thus, attention training here simply means attention upon the head and chest areas or volumes.
First, one has an inchoate awareness, a simple feeling, if you will. Next, with daily repetition of attention, comes habituation --getting used to the feeling-- followed by descriptive thoughts or words or verbalization.)
Initially, though, paying attention inward is troubled by memories - verbal and emotional - of past events and other people. The emotional aspect of memories may even cause physical reactions along with thoughts and feelings. Once such reactions, thoughts, and feelings no longer arise, attention rests effortlessly on inner silence and peace.
Finally, resting attention on different mental objects.
- From limited to unlimited.
- From little things to vast things.
- From colour to lack of colour.
Then, on sounds, and their results internally.
If using technical sounds like mantras,
moving from
audible or mumbled repetitions to
mental repetition to
other inner things like the bhāva or the feeling or the presence arising from a mantra.
Please note that in Heartfulness meditation,
there is a direct jump of attention inward to the Divine presence within,
from the very beginning.
In sum, remedy the wrong training in inward attention
by following a simple logical sequence of
regularly moving the attention
from outside to body to inside.
And do so like a baby!
Now, how to use this trained attention?
Here are two significant uses:
i) evolving attention upon the mind and heart, and
ii) synchronising the heart and mind.
In the first, one's mental attention becomes lighter and faster, and
one's heart attention becomes more palpable or
one becomes more sensitive to one's heart.
Synchronising the heart and mind simply means learning to use both for solving problems or making decisions.
NOTES
[1] If allowed. A baby tries to examine something using all five senses, but is stopped from tasting or sniffing most of the time. It also tries to build up its motor skills simultaneously by grabbing or throwing things! A very active baby or child is considered naughty. The underlying issue is not giving a baby or toddler a safe, prepared, learning environment.